Progress Not Perfection

I’m an ADHD expert. Not only do I have 35+ years of living with ADHD, but I’ve also spent countless hours working with clients who have it. I’ve attended seminars, read books by other experts, gone through extensive training, and keep up with the latest neuroscience and interventions. I watch the shorts, laugh at memes, and listen to ADHD coaches share their own tips and tricks. I’m a wealth of knowledge—and yet… I still struggle to complete tasks. Often, tasks are 90% done and remain that way until the very last minute before a deadline. And the ones without due dates? They may never get fully done.

When you have ADHD, you’re not going to “overcome” it completely. You’re never going to have it all together. You will still occasionally miss deadlines, misplace keys, or be mystified by a sense of time. That’s okay. ADHD isn’t about perfection—it’s about progress.

Managing ADHD is a journey with ups and downs. So long as the ups reach higher and the downs don’t fall as low, you’re trending upward. Women may notice these fluctuations align with their cycles, stress, or major life transitions.

Change is difficult, and implementing effective systems can feel like a moving target—especially when these strategies require skills that people with ADHD struggle with. That’s why so many “hacks” fail—they forget that ADHD brains don’t work like neurotypical ones. But not every strategy is doomed. Sometimes it just needs a little adjustment to succeed.

In practice, I focus on one or two areas that are impacting daily life the most. Together, we review the problem, discuss previous “failed” solutions, and identify where breakdowns occur. I usually assess executive functioning challenges to find interventions that don’t rely on other struggling areas. They may not solve the entire problem, but even small shifts can make a big difference.

Sure, some tasks remain 90% complete until the last minute—but that’s still progress. Laundry may not always make it into drawers, but at least it gets folded. Water may be forgotten occasionally, but carrying a bottle most days is a win. Bills get paid, my home is reasonably organized, and my business is thriving. Managing ADHD is about celebrating these wins and continuing forward. Progress, not perfection, is the goal.

Need help making progress? Reach out today and we can talk about how I can help you on your journey.